Why "It's Never Too Late" is a Trap!

Trevor O'Hara
by Trevor O'Hara

The IC Founder & CEO

Summary: Phrases like this can lull you into a false sense of comfort and may not be realistic. Here's what's more important.

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We’ve all heard the phrase, “It’s never too late.” It’s a comforting sentiment, a way of saying there’s still time to chase your dreams, switch careers, or find fulfillment.

We're never too far away from the inspiring stories of people like Jack Cover inventing the Taser stun gun at 50, Taikichiro Mori becoming a real estate investor at 51, Ray Kroc founding McDonald's at 52, or Harry Bernstein writing his first book, "The Invisible Wall" at age 96.

But while the intention behind this phrase may be kind, it can create a false sense of security—the idea that waiting doesn’t come with consequences.

Here’s the truth no one talks about enough: time won’t wait for you. Believing “it’s never too late” can keep you stuck, waiting for a mythical “perfect moment” that may never arrive. Instead of empowering you to act, it can lull you into complacency, trapping you in the very cycle you’re trying to escape.

The good news? There’s a more realistic, proactive mindset that can move you forward no matter where you are in life. This post will explore why the “it’s never too late” mantra often falls short, provide a fresh perspective on how to think about time and life’s opportunities and share actionable steps to help you start where you are.


Why “It’s Never Too Late” Can Hold You Back

At first glance, “It’s never too late” seems encouraging. It highlights success stories of people who achieved greatness in their 50s, 60s, and even later. But beneath the surface, this phrase comes with risks that can derail your progress.

It Encourages Procrastination

“It’s never too late” implies there’s no urgency—it tells you that waiting is fine and that there's no rush.

But here’s the uncomfortable reality: every moment you delay is a moment lost. Life moves fast, and none of us are guaranteed perfect health, endless energy, or unlimited opportunities. By the time you decide to act, circumstances may have changed, making it harder to achieve your goals.

It Reinforces Linear Thinking

This phrase still ties you to an outdated framework that it's trying to fight–that your timeline defines your opportunities. It still suggests that pursuing a passion, starting a business, or embarking on another career–should still only happen at certain ages, in which case, being a CEO at 21 might be out of bounds.

Age is still the reference point, however you dress it up!

But life really isn’t linear. What truly matters is your readiness, your resources, your mindset, and your actions–matter far more than your birth year.

It Ignores Real-Life Challenges

While the idea that “it’s never too late” is intended to be inspirational, it can often
gloss over practical daily realities.

For example, building a business may sound just like the thing for you, but that's at least a ten-year commitment. Are you in good enough health? Do you have any financial limitations? What about your family commitments?

While these challenges don’t mean your goals are impossible, pretending they don’t exist can set you up for frustration or disappointment. Success requires working with the constraints of your current circumstances, not denying them.


A Better Approach: “Start Where You Are”

Instead of viewing time or age as a reference point (e.g., "too early," "too late," just adopt a mindset based on immediate action.

The phrase “Start where you are” removes age and any unrealistic timelines from the equation and shifts the emphasis towards taking meaningful steps today, working within your present reality and constraints.

This shift also removes wishful thinking and lofty promises—making space for focused, actionable progress that aligns with who you are and where you are now.

Here's why 'Start Where You Are' works:

It Focuses on Action

“Start where you are” eliminates excuses. Small steps can make a difference even if your plans feel overwhelming or uncertain. Whether it’s drafting a single paragraph for a book or signing up for an online course, little actions compound over time, building momentum in the right direction.

It’s Rooted in Reality

Unlike “it’s never too late,” this mindset validates the complexities of life. Maybe you have limited finances or caregiving responsibilities. Instead of pretending these challenges don’t exist, “start where you are” encourages you to work within your constraints. Progress isn’t about waiting for perfect conditions—it’s about making the best of what you’ve got.

Small steps can make a difference even if your plans feel overwhelming or uncertain.

Your age doesn’t define your potential. Whether you’re 55 or 75, you’re not too late to start something meaningful. Shifting the focus from when you act to what you’re ready to do now puts the power back in your hands.


Breaking Free from Linear Thinking

The traditional, linear life path—education, career, retirement—is no longer relevant in today’s unpredictable world. To thrive, especially in midlife and beyond, we need to rethink how we approach life’s opportunities and challenges.

Age is Just Context

Your age doesn’t limit your ability to succeed. It simply adds context to your experiences and choices. At 60, you may have better health, more resources, and more wisdom than you did at 20. Success isn’t tied to your birth year—it’s tied to how you leverage your experiences.

Milestones Are Arbitrary

Society has assigned arbitrary timelines to life events—like retiring by 65 or starting a new career before 35. But these milestones don’t define you. What truly matters is identifying what’s meaningful to you and building a path that aligns with your values.

Growth Isn’t Straightforward

Progress usually looks messy. It includes pivots, pauses, and setbacks. A career break in your 40s could lead to the most fulfilling job of your life in your 60s. A personal setback could fuel your resilience to create something extraordinary. Growth isn’t linear, and your path doesn’t have to be either.


How to Start Where You Are

Not sure how to take that first step? Here are practical tips to bring this new mindset to life.

Reassess Your Resources

Take inventory of your current situation—your skills, finances, relationships, and available time. Instead of dwelling on what’s missing, focus on what you do have and how it can help you move forward.

Take One Small Step

Start small. Want to learn a new skill? Sign up for a free tutorial today. Dreaming of a career change? Schedule an informational interview with someone in the field. It doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to be forward-moving.

Experiment and Adapt

Allow yourself to experiment without fearing failure. Take courses, try new hobbies, and explore interests with an open mind. Not everything will stick, and that’s okay. Learn from the process and adjust as needed.

Focus More on Direction than Speed

It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get there. As long as you’re pointed toward something meaningful to you, you’re on the right track.


Why This Mindset Changes Everything

When you stop waiting and start acting, even in small ways, you unlock new possibilities. This nonlinear approach to life is liberating—it allows you to redefine purpose, chase passions, and evolve on your terms.

The secret is simple: the best time to start isn’t yesterday or tomorrow. It’s right now. The only thing standing between you and the life you want is the decision to take that first step.

About Trevor O'Hara

Trevor O’Hara is the Founder of The Interlude Café. He writes about midlife reinvention, career transitions, and agile living for the 45+ generation.

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